We have only just begun our adoption process and it's already been such an incredible experience. One of my favorite parts of this process is the conversations that I get to have with my kids. They are both taking in all of the information about adopting, Congo, etc. Abigail, especially, talks about it every day and thinks about it constantly.
When we were first looking into Africa, Abigail expressed that she wanted to make sure that we adopted a girl with skin that was the same color as hers. She was very serious about this- the gender and the skin color. I was a little surprised because we (and she) have friends and family that are of many different racial backgrounds.
So, I decided to show her some pictures on the internet of some white families that we know who have adopted black children. I showed her a picture of a family who has recently adopted 2 children from Congo. She sat and stared at the photo for a long time. After a few minutes she said, "Mom, I thought families had to match." I explained to her that if I she had a brother or sister that came from my tummy that their skin would match ours. But, that her brother or sister isn't going to come from my tummy so their skin doesn't have to match- our hearts would match even if our skin and hair don't.
She sat quietly for another minute. Then looked at me with her big happy blue eyes and said, "Ok! Then we need to start working on research for how to fix her hair because that's not going to match either. But that's okay too because my hair doesn't match anyone else's hair in my class." I love her heart! She's now completely fine with whatever skin color. I don't know what she will do if we end up adopting a boy though!
I love these moments....
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